There is a unique connection that comes with the people we choose to surround ourselves with. Whether by choice or coincidence, the bonds we build shape us into who we are, and the non-profit organization Big Brothers Big Sisters of Windsor Essex (BBBSWE) helps forge those paths. Joe and Adam, a Big/Little duo, have transformed their lives through the program, building friendships beyond typical mentorship.
A Chance Encounter with Big Brothers Big Sisters
Joe, Adam’s Big Brother, recalls the moment that inspired him to join BBBSWE. “I was driving past the old building on Jefferson when I thought of my family,” Joe said. “Growing up, we always had people around. My parents constantly cared for everyone who came through our home. My mother bonded deeply with a child she met [while volunteering for another organization] and even named my sister’s middle name after them. Volunteering felt natural, and I thought BBBSWE was a way to continue that legacy.”
When Joe first met Adam, he was immediately struck by Adam’s vibrant personality and ambitious goals. “He told me he wanted to be a real estate investor or a construction worker with his own farm,” Joe recalled, laughing. “It was amazing to hear such dreams from a nine-year-old.” Over time, Joe has watched Adam grow and mature, witnessing his passion for life and his curiosity to explore new interests.
Building Bonds Through Adventures and Life Lessons
Joe and Adam shared many memorable moments as their relationship developed, from sports to quiet fishing trips. “One of our favourite activities is going on the lake,” Joe shared. “Kayaking, fishing… he loves it, and so do I. I remember one day when he was younger, we were having such a good time, I had to practically beg him to get out of the water.”
They’ve enjoyed BBBS events, sports, gaming, and unexpected adventures. “I never thought I’d enjoy watching wrestling, but we went to an event together, and it was fantastic,” Joe said. “We’ve spent days playing WWE on Xbox and even tried ice fishing once – that didn’t go as planned, but it’s all part of the fun.”
Over the years, their connection grew, evolving from a mentor-mentee relationship into a true brotherly bond. “At first, I felt like I had to balance being a Big Brother and sometimes the dad role, keeping things in check,” Joe said. “But Adam made it easy. He’s always respectful and open, and now we just talk about life and what’s going on. My son, Seamus, loves having him over, and Adam’s a big part of our lives.”
Adam, too, has benefited immensely from this relationship. “He’s helped me with sports, especially soccer,” Adam shared. “He shows me new techniques and cheers me on at my games,” Adam remembers inviting Joe to a kids-versus-adults game, where they both had a blast competing on the same field. “We had so much fun. That day meant a lot to me,” he said.
Through their ups and downs, Joe has offered guidance and a listening ear when Adam needed it most. “During his early teenage years, Adam was going through some turbulence,” Joe explained. “We had a heart-to-heart, sharing frustrations and challenges. I opened up about my past mistakes, hoping he could learn from them.” Joe’s openness and willingness to share his experiences offered Adam insights that only a mentor could provide.
The Impact of Mentorship
Joe emphasizes that being there for Adam has also made him a better person. “When I first joined, I thought I was helping Adam, but he’s filled in parts of my life that I didn’t realize were missing,” Joe said. His experience with BBBSWE led him to fully embrace fatherhood, solidifying his desire to positively influence his children. Now, he looks forward to the arrival of a new child, knowing that Adam will continue to be a role model to his growing family.
For Adam, the relationship has been equally impactful. “Having a Big Brother to talk to is everything,” he said. “It’s important to have someone who listens and doesn’t judge.” Joe’s presence has shown Adam the importance of being there for others, and as Adam grows, he hopes to carry forward the lessons Joe has imparted.
At Big Brothers Big Sisters of Windsor Essex, mentorship goes far beyond one-on-one guidance—it creates life-changing relationships that build confidence, foster resilience, and encourage community connection. Joe and Adam’s journey reflects this impact, showing just how meaningful a “big-little” bond can be. Currently, BBBSWE serves around 450 children and youth, pairing them with mentors who become champions for their growth and success.
How You Can Help
Supporting BBBSWE is as easy as making a donation or volunteering. Every contribution stays local, directly supporting mentorship programs across Windsor-Essex. If you’d like to make a donation this holiday season, visit windsor.bigbrothersbigsisters.ca and click on “Donate,” or drop by their office at 3277 Sandwich Street in Windsor.
